Learning How To Forgive

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Learn How to Forgive and Work Through the Past

Working Through the PastParents who are hands on tend to  drill certain things into their children’s heads while they grow up. Two of the more common rules/sayings drilled into most children’s heads is the golden rule of, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” and “forgive and forget.” Its hard to argue with treating people in the same way you want to be treated.  Forgive and forget, on the other hand, is a great theory, but its beyond unrealistic, its impossible. You can say you are going to forgive and forget what your partner did to upset you, but you cannot turn off the emotional part of your brain like a light switch. You may be able to control it for a while, but eventually something is going to happen to bring all of the feelings rushing back to front of your mind. It doesn’t have to be a major episode to set you off.  Most of the time its something as simple as:

  • A passing comment
  • He or she comes home late without a good reason
  • Catching him or her in a lie
  • He or she turns you down when you are trying to be intimate.

Continuing to try and mask the issue will only cause it to fester, which will cause other problems in your life.  If you continue to let the issue grow:

  • Become a cynic
  • Grow cold
  • Increase your resentment towards your partner (Which will eventually carry over into other areas of your life.)
  • Decrease the amount of love you have for your partner
  • Eventually you will not be able to look him or her in the eye

The quickest way to kill your relationship is to pretend the issue didn’t happen. Dr. Frank Gunzbrug calls it “relationship suicide.” Learn to Forgive Sun

In Order to Work Through the Issue You Cannot Mask it

The way things are right now, you feel like you will never be able to forgive your partner for their indiscretions. What your felling right now is understandable, after all the person closest to you betrayed you. Betrayal of such a close bond really rocks the average person to their core, and brings on a tidal wave of other emotions you are forced to process:

  • Anger
  • Despair
  • Grief
  • Shame
  • Horribly Damaged Self-Esteem
  • It even has the ability to make you question everything you thought you knew in your life

The key to learning how to forgive, and work through the past is to have a process.  Processes make all aspects of life easier to mange; that is especially true when emotions are involved. Dr. Frank Gunzburg has come up with a step-by-step system to help you forgive your spouse, or gain forgiveness from your spouse if that is what you situation calls for. His system has 3 modules to it.

Module 1: How to Forgive and Work Through the Past

In the first module you will:

  • Learn how to process the anger and resentment that has been disrupting your inner calm
  • Learn how to get your spouse to see things from your point of view without resorting to underhanded tactics
    • Dr. Gunzburg has a 5 step process that will help you and your spouse start communicating again
  • Learn to tell your spouse what he or she did wrong without backing them into a corner, and causing them to get defensive
  • Learn how to get through to your spouse even if he or she has put up a wall, and totally shut down.
  • Learn to break free of the images burned in your head
  • Learn how to stop obsessing over the past actions of your spouse
  • Learn how to encourage your spouse to reopen the lines of communication

As you can see, module one is designed to help you get a handle on the internal noise your partner’s actions have caused. Trying to forgive your partner before you deal with that noise will often lead to failure.

Module 2: Forgiveness: Where Do We Go From Here?

Now that you have calmed some of the internal noise while going through the first module you are ready to start working on forgiveness. In module two you will:

  • Learn to forgive and move forward. Even if you think its impossible.
  • Learn to get the images out of your head once and for all
  • Learn to stop obsessing over his or her affair
  • Learn to know if the affair is truly over
  • Learn to tell if your spouse is telling you the truth
  • Learn to overcome the pain and betrayal you are currently feeling
  • Learn to heal, and move forward with your relationship

In the main course of How to Forgive and Work Through the Past, Dr. Gunzburg teaches you the 5 fundamental forgiveness principals. After you understand the main principals you will be able to easily personalize them to your situation, and use them to work through the issues in your relationship.

Module 3: How to Walk In Daily Forgiveness Without Being Tormented

Module 3 helps give you the steps to personalize the system to your own personal situation. Personalizing the system is the key to empowering yourself to take charge and address your issues rather than sitting back feeling helpless. As you work to familiarize yourself with the techniques, and work through the exercises in module 3, your spouse’s actions will move from primarily occupying space in the front of your mind to a small corner in the back of your mind. Over time your emotions will begin to fade, and the torment you are currently feeling will eventually dissipate. The exercises will help you overcome the pain your spouse caused you by learning to communicate it in a deeper, and more complete way than ever before. You will learn to deal with, and let go of the things you have been obsessing over. Even if you have been obsessing over them for years. Dr. Gunzburg has been helping married couples work through their issues for 30 years. His How to Forgive and Work Through the Past program will give you a system to help guide you through this emotional time. He even offers a money back guarantee, so there is no risk to you. If you don’t think the program is for you, simply ask for you money back. Click here to learn more about How to Forgive and Work Through the Past.

 

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